Generational Gap in Homosexual behavior

It was interesting tonight, I was talking with a friend of mine who is older, mid fifties, and openly gay. He knows so many other guys in the area that are gay, or at least bisexual, and are in marriages they hate but trapped in the role of being the family man, many of them have kids.

The regularity with which this occurs seems to be increase in relation to the age group looked at. This is also proof that freedom of sexual expression is still along way off. If these guys can't go to their wives and talk about how they feel and how they have attractions to other men then who can they talk to, besides the strangers they hook up with behind their wives backs.

I am not passing judgment on the guys either. I understand they likely have an immense fear of what might happen to their lives if they talked about it. The level of macho-ism is still amazingly high and any kind of admission of homosexual feelings is a direct challenge to their machismo. In many cases it was also not possible to be openly gay when they were younger, so in order to keep up appearances they got married and had kids and all that happy horse shit.

I knew one guy in particular that lived that life. His wife had died. He talked about how horrible things were for him and his wife. He would have to use sex toys, pumps and rings, just to get it up and keep that way long enough. He knew how his wife felt about their sex life and he said many times how harsh things were for her. Can you ladies imagine going through an extended relationship feeling like your other half had no interest in you at all. After his wife died he still didn't want to be open about things with his family. He was scared of how is kids would react, even though they were all in their late teens or older. As of the last time that I talked to him, which has been years now, he was still in the closet and picking up college freshmen or anyone he could find. A ruff and lonely way to be.

It is amazing that even though it is more acceptable now then ever before to be gay so many people of the older generations have been left behind, and endanger themselves and their partners by finding anonymous sex with men and keeping it all hidden from their families.